I've been happily divorced for several years now and for the most part am loving it. My ex is not a bad person we just argued and had gotten to where neither of us were real happy and agreed to part amicably. (The truth of the matter is she tended to be possessive and get enraged if got home a few minutes late from work without calling; her solution was to go ice cold and not say anything, expecting me to read her mind and figure out what I had done to upset her. I simply got tired of living like that).
Fast forward to now, and the occasional dates I go on. I've met a couple of ladies recently who are really cool, really attractive, and have some similar interests. One in particular I could see potentially spending my life with -- at least I can see it prior to finishing our physical time together.
The bottom line is I'm finding that I really want to spend time with her when, uh, my libido is up. When I'm in the throws of passion I want to spend all the time in the world with her but as soon as we're done I'm immediately ready for her to go home. I don't want to stay there and cuddle, I don't want to hang around and plan the rest of our day together, I don't want to do anything other than go on with the rest of my day and let her go on with the rest of hers. Don't get me wrong, I'm not being a dick and throwing her out the door as soon as I put my pants on, but I typically will say I've got errands to run and I'll call her later. Then we'll generally get together again a couple of days later and it's the same lather/rinse/repeat.
My best friend says this means she's not the one, and when I find "the one" I'll want to hang out with her afterward as much as I do before. But I think I've gotten so used to being single and independent that it could be Jennifer Aniston and I'd still be ready for her to get in her limo and go home where we're done.
It's been a long time since I dated and barely remember what it's like. I'd love to meet the right one and get married again at some point so my lack of interest in hanging around after we're done in the bedroom is concerning.
For any of you RRS'ers who have gotten divorced and dated again do you agree with my friend's opinion? Is it simply a matter of the right one coming along and suddenly I'll want to spend 24x7 with her or do I need to bite the bullet and make a concerted effort to hang around with her afterward even when I really want to go do something else?
Fast forward to now, and the occasional dates I go on. I've met a couple of ladies recently who are really cool, really attractive, and have some similar interests. One in particular I could see potentially spending my life with -- at least I can see it prior to finishing our physical time together.
The bottom line is I'm finding that I really want to spend time with her when, uh, my libido is up. When I'm in the throws of passion I want to spend all the time in the world with her but as soon as we're done I'm immediately ready for her to go home. I don't want to stay there and cuddle, I don't want to hang around and plan the rest of our day together, I don't want to do anything other than go on with the rest of my day and let her go on with the rest of hers. Don't get me wrong, I'm not being a dick and throwing her out the door as soon as I put my pants on, but I typically will say I've got errands to run and I'll call her later. Then we'll generally get together again a couple of days later and it's the same lather/rinse/repeat.
My best friend says this means she's not the one, and when I find "the one" I'll want to hang out with her afterward as much as I do before. But I think I've gotten so used to being single and independent that it could be Jennifer Aniston and I'd still be ready for her to get in her limo and go home where we're done.
It's been a long time since I dated and barely remember what it's like. I'd love to meet the right one and get married again at some point so my lack of interest in hanging around after we're done in the bedroom is concerning.
For any of you RRS'ers who have gotten divorced and dated again do you agree with my friend's opinion? Is it simply a matter of the right one coming along and suddenly I'll want to spend 24x7 with her or do I need to bite the bullet and make a concerted effort to hang around with her afterward even when I really want to go do something else?
